Formerly gay, God gave Brian Wheelock a vision of his future that included a wife and daughters.

For more than ten years, Brian was fully immersed in a homosexual lifestyle and was quick to argue that he had been “born this way.” Never truly at peace, he struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts. Then one night, a surprising vision of his future—including a wife and daughters—changed everything.

As the Lord began to speak to Brian’s lonely heart, Brian felt embraced by His love and accepted fully, even as he became aware of his sinfulness. Soon after, he gave his life to the Lord and felt lead to write out a Covenant between himself and God for a new beginning. Brian prayed daily that his attraction and desire for men was taken away and replaced with love for Jesus. Day after day, Brian would sign his name to the Covenant, renewing his promise and belief in God’s faithfulness.

After a few years of following Christ, he met and fell in love with Pam. Their courtship was committed to purity. In fact, their first real kiss was the day he proposed, and then they decided to even give kissing back to God until their wedding day.

Today Brian and Pam are blessed with three incredible daughters. They actively minister to those who feel they have unwanted Same-Sex Attraction, and to young couples who are struggling with where to “draw the line” in their dating relationships.

Brian and Pam desire to see the church change their ways in how they are treating those who identify as LGBTQ. Brian believes God called him out of that lifestyle, but it wasn’t through someone in the church quoting a “homosexuality is a sin” Bible verse. It was the love and power of Christ and the fellowship and love from other believers that made him realize he truly desired to be set free: “If the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed” (John 8:36).  

Brian’s family is a living testament to the blessings that await a life fully yielded to Him. Brian and Pam have now been married over fifteen years, and looking at their daughters Brian can see God’s grace at work. He continues to heal as he is able to be more open in speaking about his past with those who struggle.

Brian and Pam love taking their kids on long road trips in their minivan whenever possible. They often counsel other couples on the secrets to a happy marriage and host a talk/reality show about their adventurous life—The Brian & Pam Show—reaching nearly 500,000 homes. They reside with their three daughters and dog, Willow, in New Jersey, where Pam works in advertising, and Brian, a former salesman and 9/11 First Responder (EMT), is now a stay-at-home Dad. His days are quite packed with what he calls ‘blessed insanity.’

Brian is currently working on a book about his incredible journey.